We are all guilty of the Pinterest pinning, Facebook highlight reel drooling, and the Instagram scrolling about how things should be or could be. “My house could look like that”. “Maybe my family should go there”. ” Wow it must be nice to be the Jones’.” Yep I do it. It can bring a person down. Rob us the happiness that is right in front us.
We are not the same. You and I lead different lives. Your schedule is not my schedule. My circumstances are not yours. So why compare? Why allow others joy or adventure to bring us misery and contempt? Each day we have a choice. How can we better today for us and our family? I am not supermom. However, I do find that if I don’t make a plan I am indeed planning to fail. I asked my kids last night if my list for the week of dinners and letting them know what is ahead as far as sports, school and my own work obligations helps them. I expected a shrugged shoulder response. “Sure mom.” But instead my son told me that he likes the schedule with meals.. (straight to a man’s heart through his stomach). My daughter said that knowing the details of the week help know what’s coming up and what she needs to do.
So often I see moms putting on this front to their kids like they aren’t stressed but then rattling off to friends and co-workers about all that is weighing on their minds. For me this act of bottling up leads to snapping at my family. I don’t think that we should burden our children with things they cannot control but teaching them about time management is important. My twins are eight and I certainly did not list off the family obligations to them at five but they NEED to learn to be responsible for what they can control with of course a little help from us their parents.
We keep a short easy list for the week. It may seem over simple but it does the trick for us. This little window that I believe I purchased at target hangs in our kitchen and each Sunday I write down everything and meal plan. Everyone knows what to expect and mom has her marching orders for the week.
What small little things do you do that help keep your family on track from week to week?
Our lives are in a constant state of change. Today is not the same as yesterday and will not be the same tomorrow. You’ve heard people say that the only thing you can count on in life is death and taxes. Well what about change? I like to think of myself as a planner, someone who is organized, and knows what’s coming next. I like to make lists, think of the “what ifs” and plan for those too. However, life throws me curve balls all the time. Change makes me uncomfortable and fearful. I am a person who does’t like to do something if I haven’t thought it through to the infinite outcomes. I don’t fly by the seat of pants and you won’t see me through caution to the wind. It’s an issue of control.. yep I admit it I have control issues.
This would all be well and good if it were just me, but its not. I am married to a man that will try anything just because he wants to know if he can. There is never a thought of what if I fail, what if this doesn’t work. Nope he sees his life as a puzzle that needs to be solved. We also have two kids.. twins that are eight. I don’t want them to learn to be fearful or have to contemplate every small decision and miss out on life’s adventures. Change can be scary but as the saying goes there is no reward without a risk. We have small people who ogle our every move but more importantly we have to get up each day and look ourselves in mirror. There is a great motivational speech that our son listens to on the way to baseball games (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LoXqOUSa0_k ). You have to watch it. In it CJ Beatty talks about how in life we are the only ones who hinder ourselves from our blessings.
Change is important because without change there can’t be improvement. Self improvement, spiritual improvement, financial improvement. Change is growth and we need to keep growing. My husband has a saying that until recently drove me crazy.. okay it still drives me crazy. “This is just where we’re at right now”. When I get frustrated with how things are going he says it. When the water heater blows up at 8:30 at night and he’s out of town he says it. Of course he’s right. In the moment we can’t change what is happening.. it already happening. Accept the change that is in front of you move forward don’t wallow in it. Change your persecutive and you change your attitude.